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Raising a well adjusted child starts with the parents. It is our responsibility to develop in them the maturity to break a behavior cycle and find contentment with available material possessions.

A well-adjusted individual has high self-esteem, contentment, emotional stability and independence. Adjustment develops over time and is highly influenced by upbringing and life experiences. As parents, if your biggest goal is to provide the best for your children, start by instilling generosity, appreciation, warmth and kindness in them.

Therefore let us discuss the following simple steps that will help you in raising a well adjusted child:

1. Set boundaries

Firstly, it is important to set boundaries for children and stick to them. It could be with simple things like not buying the extra toy. You may receive hurtful comments like “I hate you” but that is actually their first step towards acceptance of that boundary. In other words, boundaries help your child to be grounded and to thrive in this chaotic world.

2. Establish routines

Secondly, teach them self-control and empathy early on in childhood. With a lot of unexpected happenings around, it is sometimes a relief to know what to expect. Routines allow children a sense of self-control that helps them to become strong-willed individuals.

3. Develop empathy

Empathy is one of the traits of happy and successful people. The ability to walk in another person’s shoes is not inborn but a learned behavior. It promotes kindness and is an effective antidote to bullying and aggression. Empathetic children are better equipped to handle criticism and exhibit an excellent character.

4. Outdoor time

You cannot teach all the life skills within the four walls of the classroom or at home. Allowing your child to have some active playtime improves everything from creativity to academic success. The playground can also teach them to regulate their emotions and be proactive.

5. Experiences matter, not things

We know that it is not material things that they remember when children grow up. It is the meaningful experiences like building sandcastles on the beach and blowing bubbles in the backyard that will stay with them for the longest time. Most importantly, find the time to spend with them while engaging in these activities. They derive their sense of rightful living from what they see you doing.

6. Doing chores

Even though  it is difficult to have them by your side while doing chores, studies show that children benefit from it. The more responsibilities, the better the self-esteem they tend to have. They are able to deal with disappointments in a better way and delay gratifications, all of which will contribute to greater adjustments in life.

Let’s start with you!

In conclusion, emotional turmoil in parents is linked to emotional turmoil in children. Effective parenting starts with being happy parents. You can be the role model for them to become well-adjusted and successful adults. Also, share some of your struggles. Let them know that overcoming and handling the obstacles is what makes them the real heroes.